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Is a Theme Always a Good Wedding Idea?


I was shown to my seat by a Vulcan or a Klingon, Im not exactly sure. An old college buddy of mine excitedly invited me to his Star Trek wedding. He insisted it was a great wedding idea to have members of the wedding party dressed as characters from Star Trek, the TV show.

The invitation even suggested that I come dressed as an extraterrestrial thankfully the costume rule for the guests was optional (and judging from the attendance, all the guests opted for decidedly less-than galactic outfits). The vows were read in Klingon, which Im sure the wedded couple thought was a great wedding idea, as well.

The look of the mother of the bride was priceless a cocktail of emotions that included happiness, joy, pride, sadness, confusion and (possibly) contempt. Looking at the bridesmaids and groomsmen all decked out in various forms of body armor, capes, masks and wigs, it looked like we were filming an Ed Wood movie. I had to disagree with my old college friend, a Star Trek theme was definitely not a good wedding idea.

How Much Is Too Much?

Weddings shouldnt be cookie-cutter copies of the traditional ceremony adding the personal touch or a humorous feature is an excellent wedding idea. The important thing to remember is not to allow the personal touches to consume the wedding. Having a few cages of lovebirds is a lovely wedding idea; having your bride covered in feathers, while she flies down the aisle to the soundtrack of bird calls in not a lovely wedding idea.

A popular theme for weddings is a Renaissance wedding much more appealing than a Star Trek wedding. When the elements of Elizabethan England are included in the ceremony subtly, the outcome can be very pretty. Styling the brides wedding dress after an authentic design of the Renaissance is a great wedding idea.

Even having the rest of the wedding part dressed in Renaissance costumes can be effective, just as long as an eye is kept on good touch and elegance, or your wedding party can end up looking like a troupe from the Renaissance Fair. Once the Renaissance theme starts to seep into the reading of the vows, the toasts and the menus, then there is a problem. Eating whole turkey legs without cutlery may seem authentic, but it is definitely not a good wedding idea (nor a very sanitary one, for that matter).

How About a Twist?

The main problem with a wedding theme is that it can take over the whole ceremony, turning the ceremony into a tacky or gimmicky evening. Theres a thin line separating tacky with tasteful, and often in a desire to stay within the confines of a theme deemed brilliant, the wedding couple can opt for the former.

At another wedding I recently attended, the invitations read Great Gatsby Theme and on my way to the wedding, I have visions of women dressed in unfortunate flapper costumes, but was pleasantly surprised when the extent of the theme was to wear white. The theme was a great wedding idea because it was a memorable visual, but the wedding wasnt ridiculous.

Be Yourself within Reason

A wedding ceremony is a party, and the point is to have fun, but that doesnt mean that you can turn the wedding into a carnival sideshow because you want to make the wedding ceremony memorable and different. A good wedding requires meticulous planning, and input from a person not getting married, so that someone with an objective viewpoint so that he or she can shed some harsh, yet often necessary, beams of reality over the proceedings.

Do they want step-parents at the wedding?

Portland Wedding Show
The idea of patching together gift baskets and centerpieces can seem intimidating, but it can also give you the chance to be creative. How much fraying do you see, and will this make the fabric difficult to handle? There are the standard precious metals such as gold and silver, but the male wedding ring can also be formed from stainless steel, platinum, or titanium.

Honestly, most conflicts between the wedding couples parents have to do with control issues.
Whether it is as eloquent as a Vera Wang, strapless gown with sequins and a trailing veil, or as simple as a knee length white dress with a shawl, it needs to express who you are, and the type of wedding you are having. If you have a favorite show or two (or three), make each wedding centerpiece slightly different, to reflect particular shows. This interlace design with its unbroken lines symbolizes the binding of a man's soul to the earth and the process of a man's eternal spiritual growth.